Raised Me Better?

I just got to say this, to get this out there, preferably where no one in my family will see. My mother came over today. Now, she came over in the middle of us preparing to move. There are boxes everywhere, furniture is moved to where it wouldn't normally be. And cherry on top of this shit pie? There is dog hair everywhere. All the time. I sweep one day, and the next day, there is more dog hair. Now, while my mother is here, my daughter spilled a drink. This drink was spilled in a corner where we cannot really get anything. While my mother is helping my husband clean it up, she makes the comment 'I raised her better than this.'

BETTER THAN WHAT?

If she had come on a normal day, when we were not preparing to move, my house would have looked really nice. I really want to know what she thinks she raised me better than. Every time in the last five years that I have gone to her house, there has been dirty floors covered in animal feces, dirty dishes, counters, the house smelled of BO, and who knows what else. When I was there it would creep me out, it would feel like it was just too dirty to touch anything. And what was she doing, you ask? Her and my sisters, and occasionally my father, would be playing video games.

Why don't you ask me what I was doing when she got here.

I had just finished dishes, I put the last load of laundry into the dryer, and I was sitting outside with my children, playing. I was not anywhere near my computer or any video games. I was not even watching TV. And yet she complains to me that I spend too much time on the computer, that I don't do anything around my house. When she got here today, if she had walked into my kitchen, my kitchen was clean. She used my bathroom. My toilet was scrubbed nice and clean. That's better than I can say for her. 

This attitude she has drives me crazy. It's like she thinks that she does an amazing job when really she doesn't do anything. I'm not sure where she gets the idea that she raised me better, because my sisters, who she also raised, do not do anything to help around the house. When I lived with my mother, I helped clean house. I did dishes, I cleaned the floors, I even picked up after animals. It's been 10 years so I can't say for certain everything I did back then, but I can say it was a ton more than my sisters do now. My sisters, who are 19 and 21, whine and complain when they're asked to do anything. 

I feel that I do a very good job taking care of my house and family. I know that I could do better, and some days I do....and some days I don't, lol. 

My point is, how can she possibly feel that she can walk in my house and criticize me when her own house is so much worse than mine? Nevermind the fact that we are in the middle of moving, my house is much cleaner than hers ever is.

The only thing she raised me better than is to be a complainer, and yes, I did fail hard at that, because here I am complaining about her.