Hurting on the Inside

I don't get why he can't quit talking to her now. The divorce is over. Idky he has to wait. He knows it upsets me, he knows I have issues with her...he told me he's gonna gradually slack off and then stop but it seems more like he's stepped up, more phone calls and texts since her divorce was finalized than in the whole month before, feels like.  And he has to go help his dad this weekend, so a whole weekend without me...he's probably gonna be blowing up her phone...What am I supposed to do? Why does it feel like I am supposed to compete with a woman 1000s of miles away? 

Am I a bad person for wanting him to leave her alone? He admits he caused all this animosity for me by his actions, so why can't he just knock it off? He saw how happy I was when her divorce finally came through, so that she didn't need a friend like him anymore, and I said 'so you can stop talking to her now right?' And all I get in response is 'remember she's human, baby'. Well I feel like another woman would understand if he said 'I think it's time we stopped talking now because my wife is uncomfortable with it.' I can't help feeling like its gonna be more along the lines of 'Ashli is a bitch and we have to stop talking now.'

I just feel like I can't trust anything he says anymore. It's hurting me a lot and I don't think he sees it. I sometimes wonder if we'd be better off apart...

 I'm starting to think it may be easier for me if he just never quits, cuz even if he does i am gonna be constantly worrying that he's still talking to her, and since u can clear texts and individual phone calls I will probably never trust him again. I just....idk how he got over it with me. Maybe he's a better person than I am.