She doesn't even have the respect for me as an adult to confront me directly about any arising issues, but rather, she talks to Chance about her problems with me, much like a parent discussing their issues with a fellow parent's child, expecting them to handle the situation.
I know I am aggressive in this situation, but it's because at this point, I feel as if I have no control over my life, over anything at present. Everything is out of my hands and I'm not even allowed an opinion on it. When I do voice my opinion in public, I get in trouble with my husband, as if I am a child. I feel like no one has any respect for me as an adult, and the safest thing for me to do is lock myself in my room, much like an insolent teenager. It's almost easier to surrender and continue being treated as a child versus making futile attempts at being an adult. I don't even get a say over what is watched on television when anyone else is in the room.
I know if I continue to act like an insolent teenager I will continue to be treated as such, but even when I make attempts to act like an adult people still continue to treat me as they would someone younger, or more child-like, then themselves. I'm not sure anyone, even my own husband, sees me as an adult.
Everyone says when you act like a child, you get treated like a child. I know some of my actions are childish or immature (like taking down all of our pictures in the living room, even though we know she'll either do it herself or ask us to eventually anyway) but I felt I was just acting preemptively, not childishly.
It doesn't matter; no one cares what I do, say, or think anyway.
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