You can be the absolute best parents in the world and your kid can still do something like this. You can't blame the parents entirely. Bullied children, who can come from wonderful, loving homes, are just as likely to do something like that as any other children. Oftentimes it's the bullies that cause the kids to go to these lengths. The best thing we, as parents, can do as far as that is fight our schools to crack down on bullying. Schools are too worried about bad publicity and it getting in the news to do anything to stop bullies. They are afraid to punish the kids responsible because they don't want the parents retaliation, but by not punishing the bullies, they risk the bullied child taking matters into their own hands.
Schools are in a 'catch-22' in that, which is unfair but it makes it hard to punish bullies, especially when there's little-to-no proof of who the bully actually is.
And all these idiot people throwing fits about stuff like saying the Lord's prayer before sporting events and at pep rallies is making them unable to teach morals and values in the classrooms because that's too close to religious views, and that whole 'separation of church and state' thing and all those people fighting to take God out of schools (by practically making Him a swear word, it feels) would have a giant fit if their kid came home and said 'today I learned
Frankly it's not the school's place to teach that, however, it's the parents. The best we can do as our generation is teach our kids right from wrong and all the morals and values they need for life, and pray we didn't mess up. You can't force them to be who you want them to, but you can guide them in the right direction.
And you can't blame the masses for the actions of a few. Just because this one child's parents were inattentive or abusive or otherwise wronged the child in some way and then the child shot someone, doesn't mean that all parents of shooters are like that.
A 17 year old kid is smart enough to know shooting someone is bad. You can't blame the parents for the actions of an adult (or nearly adult) mind.
Oh I'm not saying that there aren't some parents to blame, just that, again, you can't blame the masses for the actions of a few.
I mean, I can raise my daughter with all good morals and values that she needs in this world, but if she gets beat up at school every day and I complain to the school and they do nothing, so she takes matters matters into het own hands and shoots the bully, I don't deserve to be punished for her decision. She knew it was wrong and did it anyway.
Like, if I walk up and shoot someone in the face, do you want me to be punished, or my parents for how they raised me? Because, I made the decision to shoot the person, not my mom.
You can't even truly blame abusive parents for a person's actions. I was abused as a child, but I made the conscious decision NOT to be that way. There are many examples of abused and molested kids who grow up to be wonderful, loving people.
It's a combination of several factors, not just upbringing, but history of mental instability, bullying, abuse, and even peer pressure, that causes people to act the way they do. And most of these kids that shoot other kids as well as kids that commit suicide have a history of mental instability or have some mental disorder.
Mental disorders being a genetic condition, regardless of the parents treatment of the child, I don't see that as the parents fault.
If a kid is bullied every day at school, comes home to a loving family, and still kills themselves, who's to blame there? The school for not stopping the bullying, the bullies for the results of their bullying, sure. But the parents did everything they could for that child. I don't see them to blame here, either.
I think it'd be a sign to bullies to start punishing them with involuntary manslaughter or something similar in these cases. Maybe if bullying had serious punishments, kids would back off. Cuz apparently, bullying victims shooting their bullies isn't enough of a punishment to them.
Well, like I said before, the only way we can change anything is to actively take a role in our kids lives. Teach our sons and daughters right from wrong, and all the morals and values they need, and encourage our friends to do the same.
Parents aren't taking active roles in their children's lives anymore. But it's up to our generation to change it, to do better with our kids than our parents did with us.
It's only way we can change the world.
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